was talking to a female friend and just realised how much i am irritated by female friendships.
i got lots of female friends, but only a very small percentage are true blue friends....
platonic r/s, my ass.
i have moved out of hostel for 2 years, and frankly, barely any of the female hostel friends took the initative to maintain the friendship.
i have like 40 pple from my hall on my MSN, and very seldom a female would bother to msg to catch up and chill.
the rare few msg i received is ALWAYS about some laptop problems and requests for troubleshooting.
A close friend of mine, lets call him Mr Cute. He was damn popular with girls and stuff, and he rents an apartment with 2 very close female friends that have forged a friendship with him for the past 3 university years (i think). And now, he's sourcing for an apartment away from the 2 girls, because they have grown distant ever since graduation, despite staying at the same apartment everyday!!
they spent time alone in their room, never bothering to socialise with Mr Cute.
girls, don't u bother to maintain a friendship???????
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i hv a hostel mate (nicked CH) tat grew very close to me while i was in year 1. i dunno whether it had anything to do, but i felt that she totally withdrew from me after she got attached.
and her friend (nicked V) too, whom i tot was quite interesting because she is one of the rare few who possess a great interest and knowledge in history (surprise, i may be an economist but i love history). and then this friend too totally forgot abt me. i saw her at NIE once, but she just hi and bye. can't remember when, but i guessed she totally lost this friendship after she got attached.
i mean, harlow!??!?
i cn't believe CH and V can suddenly lose this friend here, and another friend TF, she was wondering what happened and she approached CH and asked her how come she don't talk to me anymore (this happened 3 years ago)
and CH said "cherub seems weird, he changed"
watever.
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i have a few close friends right now, and day-in, day-out, i hear them complaining abt their bfs banning them from seeing which guy friends or from doing some activities. Like clubbing or going shopping, or just meeting new pple. hello people, get a life, losers (referring to the bfs), if u have to be so insecure abt ur gf dumping u, u need to play less playstation, and grow up a little more.
and the girls, sorry but u're equally stupid. your world doesn't revolve around ur bf. don't lose any friend just because u're attached. if u hv to live ur life according to a standard of your bf, then obviously he found the wrong girl, so you either accept that and stop complaining or u ditch him.
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i am gonna get slammed so much for this, but its the truth. female can't make their own decision. no matter wat it is, they will have to ask their bf, mother, father, friends and whatsoever before deciding whether they should -watever-
and some females can listen to others pple opinion before deciding whether this person is good or bad. don't u hv a mind of your own? if u can listen to flamers, or some rumours and then decided that cherub is a bad guy, wahlao, i hope u enjoy your tofu before choking on it. i absolutely hate it when a trust is misplaced simply because the girl rather listen to other pple...
and no, so far, i havent seen any man that actually do this -they-say-so-then-i-must-listen-shit-
so pls dun prove me wrong on this....
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and yes, if you don't treasure this friendship, please for god's sake, delete me from your hp and msn, don't bother msg me again. don't irritate me to call me and ask me for computer problems.
kindly do yourself a favour and google for the answer.
and yes, some men do have this problem too. i have 2 close army mates who blocked me on msn for watever reasons. fark lah. after all these years of friendship and hardship (fark lor, army mates lor, u see them 18 hrs a day for 2 years) you can destroy a friendship coz of watever reason.
i respect u lah.
i dun think i would ever marry. seriously.
20 comments:
totally agree with u....but this only applies to some of the 'stupid' gers la.....only when they cant think, they would dump their fren all becoz of the bfs....and the stupidest thing is when they broke up, they look for frens again....wtf, we are back up tyres?
i always believe in "give and take" statement.....even in frenship, this statement applies too.....to a fren, u cant be a taker/giver all the time, u have to learn to give/take, to take a step back n have a wider look...
处理友情就好像是在把水倒入一个破洞的杯一般,一方一直不停地把水倒入,最终他总会有累的时候;另一方如果不学会把自己的破洞补好,他也就永远不会有满足的时候。
Mr. Cute
i.am.here.:)
sense quite abit of angst in that entry. c'mon man, take a break! people come and go in our lives. the last ones standing are the ultimate winners. why care about the rest?
do i irritate you? HA HA. kidding.
bisou, bisou. <3
Am I one of those pathetic 'true blue female friends' of yours? :)
I know how you feel. I absolutely hate it when friends who have found their 'other halves' treat me like a spare tyre. I loathe being a freaking substitute.
I always pity guys who do not have a mind of their own, especially those who are 'terrified' of their gfs to the extent that they dare not go out alone with their other female friends, as if afraid that their gfs will spot them together and misunderstand.
It gets kind of irritating when you are given the '2nd class citizen' but I guess people have different priorities. You just have to accept the fact that you are ranked rather low in these people's priority lists. So don't let these people bother you. If they are not interested in maintaining a friendship with you, so be it. Life goes on. It's not as if you would die without these fair-weather friends.
mrCute: i see that you enjoy this nick. hahaha. yah, i like ur chinese statement a lot... if the cupholder never bothers to fill the gap, the water pourer will get tired 1 day.
zai!! nice one lah!
fcukling: wah..thanks! well...i'm not aiming to win wad! lol haha...
and u dun irritate me lah..
ANNOYS me only...HAHAHAHA. kidding. :P
wat's bisou?
swissmiss: lol. true blue friend, haha, u forgot i'm ur bestest friend. *ahem concert tixs*
yah true, but fair-weather friends really irritates me a lot..
heh, i'm damn curious if u would do those mistakes once u're attached. haha
Babe tats y hor, i dun believe in doing those stupid Hi actions in hall lah, Kanina see beh bo liao and waste energy nia.......
Friends a few good one can liao, can fuck the rest, but working different lah, must gek siao a bit, but overall can still fuck them, lol......
Ur somemore say i fucking dao......is just tat i fucking smart to see this logic long ago lah...... LOL
Or Bi who ask ur so hum sup LOL
lifeless: babe! u too extreme lah! tat sibei xialan face! hahaha...
there are still good friends there wad. at least we hi action to everyone..
u only hi- to chiobus lor.... like ur "ferrari"....LOL
eh, i think not all gals are lidat lah, but truth be told, there DO exist alot of 'oo-ppl-say-he-is-shit-therefore-he-is-shit' type of gals.
personally i agree that bfs who ban their gals from seeing other guys are.. err.. not being very nice la (to put it mildly). tt's y i hv never done that, n i always encourage my gf to go out with other guy frens.. after all, am i such a big shot that i can singlehandedly cut her off from half of her frens??? not very fair loh. (hmm, but then again mebbe tt's y they keep breaking up wif me, LOL)
but one thing, cherub dear, u shd haf known this about girls long ago.. and in fact, not gals, but frens in general. (next time must tell u my '3-circles of friendship' theory, lolz)
~izu
I belong to those gals who would leave attached guys alone, and attached guy friends left me alone too. Dun just focus on the misely view about gals just because you are single and lonely.
Be responsible for your own happiness, why should they be the one asking you out? Why dun they be the one feeling irritated when you are not the on asking them out? it always takes two hands to clap.
True friendship dun really need upkeeping. Friendship that requires constant upkeeping is really tiring and eventually will lead to nothing. Will they stand by you eventually in times of need? If these friends dun (regardless guys or gals) Why bother to even be upset about how they abandon you because of the other half?
After all..they are going to abandone you all the same some time in life.
You are not going to be the one that they chose to spend the rest of their life with.
Treasure friends worth keeping and keep them real tight.Friends that left you, leave them too. fair and square. *mandy liaw*
babe.
i'm not single and lonely lah.
and I'm not even talking abt couplehood. I'm talking abt friendship. friends and hall-mates.
notice that most friends from my hall who commented agree....
Hello Cherub! My first time reading this blog leh... Not ALL girls are like tat la... There are still exceptions like Blueapple. LOL
People come and go at different points of our life. If they choose to go then let them be lo...
And yes, i have to agree tat SOME girls are really very undecisive. I also buay tahan! x_x
At the end of the day, u'll know who are really your true friends.. ;)
thanks blueapple.
wait till u get a bf, then we will know whether u like tat...hahahahahaa
:P
people who don't agree don't bother to comment mah... they probably don't bother to read your blog... lol... of cuz those who commented agree lah
haha. but then look at blogs like xiaxue's. there are so many pple who disagree and commented on her blog....
oi, dont go 1 round shoot me leh...
dont want to have any commitments yet la.. relationship thingy is very tiring.. hard to manage.. waste time and money. =/
lol...u too sensitive lah :P
yup. agreed.
so u going to shao lin si and be monk? =/
unless my friends managed to find me a good girl next door, yup. shaolin si, here i come....!
LOL.. u so fast reply one.. aiya.. sure got girl-next-door kind of girls one.. U wait.. WAIT.. LOL
eh. u good, u really good. say till like tat.... -.-"
LOL.. cherub tio owned. xD
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