old friendships

[Ed: I have taken away the 2nd part due to distraction from the focus of the title]

neofik: so the army gathering u coming hor....
cherub: eh *arrogant-guy-who-shld-not-be-named* not coming hor
neofik: he not going ba.
neofik: unless he psychic.


haha. i had a good laugh at this comment.
for those a bit slow, it simply implies that he wasn't informed of the army gathering...
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so an army gathering is now on the horizon.

sometimes i wonder the value of friendship to many of my army-mates, and on a larger picture, to many people.

this army gathering has been long overdue, but then, looking back on the past few years of gathering, it has always been the same old people.

and every time, we know that there are some people who would never be caught dead in with us. These are people who condemned their armymates, their 2 1/2 years of hell, and would rather forget every single episode of their short military stint, including any resemblance of friendship.

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when i look into my other friendships over time, i tend to see the same pattern, albeit on different scales and significance.

On a primary school gathering, i was told (i failed to attend due to sickness), the same faces turned up. many friends who seldom turned up for other gatherings, err, didn't turn up again for other (more important?) reasons.

some has gf/bf.
some has work.
some has er, dunno lah, other more impt reasons i guess.
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i always have two school of thoughts around me.
1 is that treasure very friendship, especially the old established ones and those that you spent most time with.

the other school of thought is that u only need a few friends. the rest are just "hi-and-bye" acquaintances. don't bother spending efforts on them.

Well, what kind of a friend do you think u are?